3 Years

 

Today marks 3 years married to this guy.

He's a really really good husband.  Much better than I am a wife.

Last night he made me ice cream with smarties.  It's the little things.

He turns my heated mattress pad on if he gets into bed before me.

He puts up with me telling him I'm growing a human.  It's one of the useful things I've done since we got married, so I need to tell him once in awhile so that I feel less lazy.

He builds me stuff.  Marry a man who can build you stuff, it's a useful quality.  

He lets me plan vacations.  I love planning trips and he just lets me do my thing and then goes along willingly.  

He cooks me mac and cheese.  He cooks me a lot of delicious things actually, but last night it was mac and cheese and it was so good.

He makes me coffee on Saturday mornings before I get out of bed.

I'm a lucky lady and this wee baby is going to have the most amazing father.  He knew he wanted a baby long before I did (I mean I knew it, but he was really ready).  The baby is going to be spoiled rotten and will probably get way more ice cream than it should, but it will be so loved.  

Happy Anniversary Fella.

Living Together Before Marriage? No Thanks!

It's weird because I feel like I often have to explain to people that we didn't live together before we were married.  We are definitely in the minority these days and most people just assume that you lived together before marriage.  I think that you should do what works best for you, but I do have some fairly strong opinions on this as well.  

I wanted to wait to live together partially because this is just the way that I was brought up and my parents had fairly strong opinions on it as well.  

I wanted something to be special after our wedding.  If you live together, then you get married and it really is just a piece of paper.  You come home after the wedding and nothing has changed.  For us everything had changed, it was this whole new adventure and we both found it very exciting!  

I know people hate this opinion, but I truly believe that if getting married is important to you, living together first just prolongs it.  News flash, men don't care about weddings.  (Ok maybe some do, but I know a lot who don't.)  If you live together, there is no pressure for them to propose because they really don't see the difference between that and getting married. I have seen time and time again a girl moves in with her boyfriend and then gets frustrated when he doesn't propose for two years.  I also think that when you live together, real life takes over and you think more about household finances and less about finding money for that ring.  

And that whole you should live together before marriage to make sure it will work thing?  Before you get married you should probably know the other person well enough to know if it will work.  Sure we had some bumps when we first got married with learning to deal with the other persons habits, but it wasn't really a huge deal.  Plus it's been proven that the divorce rate is higher in people who live together first.  (Ok so maybe this statistic has been recently disproven.)  I think maybe because people rush into it because it doesn't seem like as big of a commitment as a marriage.

So there you have it.  If you did live with your significant other before marriage, don't be offended by this.  I know a lot of people do it, this is just my perspective from someone who didn't do it and my reasoning behind it.  Because these days, it seems like people don't really understand this reasoning!

Six Months

Today is our six month wedding anniversary.  We aren't the kind of people to celebrate that, but I thought it deserved a mention.

It's been a great six months.  Marriage is pretty awesome.  Sure it's difficult.  They say the first year is the hardest and I guess I understand why.  Learning to live with someone isn't easy.  We both have our habits and the ways that we were brought up and we need to learn to combine everything into something new that works for us.  But I think we are getting there.  It's getting easier all the time. 

I would say it's better than when we are dating or engaged.  When you are dating and not living together, it's an effort to make time for each other. Getting together on a Tuesday night is a planned out event.  Now I see him every Tuesday night, I like that about marriage.

Every day I'm happy I married him.  I'm even happier that he decided to marry me.